"My fear is that people will watch the film and have this impression of the heroine and what she endured to be that person."
It doesn't really make sense (even if I said it,) but what I intended was, I fear that people who see her as a heroine WON'T think about what she endured to get that way.
You can read the whole piece here.
There's a column coming out in the Toronto Sun on Sunday, and I'm hoping that's the end of it. But I wanted to answer the comments and be black and white on what I actually said and didn't say. So:
This is not an attack on how you or anyone dresses.
This is not an attack on H&M, or on the film. I LIKED the film (the original Swedish version, anyway).
I'm simply questioning the association of a line of clothing with a victim of childhood abuse and rape, who exacts violent revenge. I found it to be negative; a thoughtless marketing ploy. That's all. I wanted people to think about why Lisbeth does what she does, before they choose to emulate her. I questioned it, and I proposed that others question it, too.
For doing that, I've been attacked, and some of these attacks have come from people who were also raped - which I find really painful and difficult. I know they are in pain, and that they are angry. And yet they're responding as if I attacked them personally - their life experience, how they dress, how they feel. That is not what I set out to do.
This was an opinion piece, based on my emotions and judgement. Most importantly, I NEVER said that H&M is trying to glamorize rape. I said they are glamorizing the rage and fear that sexual violence leaves behind.
One last thing to the people who claim I'm doing this to draw attention to myself: believe me, this is the last thing on earth I want to draw attention to. I made this message public, and I feel it's my responsibility to follow through with it. But every time I check my e-mail or my twitter feed my heart pounds, and often I'm left shaking and deeply upset. I'm having to defend not just my opinion, but my opinion as a rape survivor. That's not fun. It's actually pretty horrible.
Try to remember that before you put me down.